dependency
Dependency is the art of surrendering the helm of one’s life to others or to habits, thus abdicating the luxury of one's own will. At the first sign of trouble, one loudly declares “It’s their fault,” while basking in unearned pride during moments of calm. Haunted by the sweet poison called security, one rejects the terrifying freedom of autonomy. Even in the presence of experts, people refuse to loosen these chains, and willingly remain captives of their own making.